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March Spotlight: Nichole Villafane, Survivor Fellow and Georgia Volunteer

Nichole Villafane and her son Xavier Arnold

Nichole’s son, X’avier Arnold, was shot and killed on a bike trail in Atlanta, GA when he and his fiance went for a walk to paint a mural on a known graffiti warehouse in an East Atlanta neighborhood known as Kirkwood. It was a gang initiation for a 14-year-old to prove his street credits by robbing strangers at gunpoint while being accompanied by a 22-year-old gang affiliate. It was the teen’s job to shoot if any of the victims tried to defend themselves. X’avier lost his life for protecting his fiance. Nichole is a faith-based facilitator at her church for women who have experienced trauma and is currently getting her mental health coaching certification.

For many, 2020 was a year full of challenges and heartache. Do you have any advice for fellow survivors for how to remain resilient and committed to the mission in 2021?

Remember to go after every opportunity to share your or a loved one’s story, whether it’s on a Zoom meeting, small group setting, legislation, or amongst friends. Sharing your story keeps your loved one from just becoming a memory and helps others to recognize and say their name. Also, always keep in the forefront of your mind, how they would want you to live.

What has it meant to you to be part of Moms Demand Action and the Everytown Survivor Network?

Being a survivor of Moms Demand Action and the Everytown Survivor Network has brought me great strength in knowing I am not alone. I am not crazy and I have a huge family out here that cares about not only me but my X’avier.

What is one thing you hope to personally accomplish as a survivor leader in the coming year?

To become a stronger leader this year than ever before. COVID showed me some things about myself during my time alone. I am happy to say that after taking some time to overcome a lot of these things that you can discover years after your loved one’s departure. I am ready to jump on the saddle and recommit myself to the awesome work we do to help other survivors coming into this unwanted club.

Is there anything else you’d like to share with our readers?

For those who are newly inducted on this journey, I would say take your time, be gentle with yourself, guard your heart and your spirit, know when to remove yourself from situations that are not creating a safe space, and please reach out to another survivor so you don’t get lost in a rabbit hole.

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